At a point in my life I thought I had found that. I thought I was finally complete. Over time, I couldn't figure out why I wasn't happy. Why I felt alone. Why I never felt whole. It turns out I never was complete.
When I ended my relationship I felt so alone and so lost. I had given so much of myself to my partner and our relationship that I lost myself somewhere along the way. I had spent so much of my time trying to make someone else happy....and whole. Giving up parts of myself to fill the missing pieces of another.
I never realized until this point in my life that it was never about finding my other half. The missing component. You can't look to another to make you whole. It isn't someone else's job to make you complete. It is YOUR job to make YOURSELF complete. Make YOURSELF whole. It's not about finding the person to make you complete. It's about embracing ALL parts of yourself and realizing that you yourself are complete and whole all on your own.
Think about it. If you are looking to complete someone, you are sacrificing parts of yourself to make them whole.....and vice versa. In order for relationships to truly work, both parties must be whole. Now I'm not saying they need to be perfect and have their shit figured out (we never truly do to be honest). What I'm saying is they themselves need to be WHOLE.......and so do you. Friendships.....Relationships.......these are in your life to make you better. To help you evolve and grow. To help you become the best version of yourself. NOT to make you whole.
In order to progress in life, one must be truly complete and whole. You must love and be gentle with yourself every single day. Learn from life. Become better.....not bitter. One can spend their entire life chasing something that will never happen...........you can spend your whole life trying to find something/someone to make you complete when at the end of the day YOU HAVE TO MAKE YOURSELF COMPLETE. You and YOU alone. It would be unfair to expect someone else to sacrifice parts of themselves to make you whole.......because then what happens to them? Who makes them whole?
If I have learned anything these last 8 months........it is that people come and go. Partners. Friends. Relationships. All of it can be here today and gone tomorrow. Invest in YOU. In making yourself whole. Be complete and whole ON YOUR OWN. Don't look to be made complete by another and don't spend your life trying to complete someone else. Surround yourself with people who are complete and whole on their own. You will find that life becomes easier because no one is sacrificing parts of themselves to complete one another.......you are in fact surrounded by people who are complete on their own....leaving you complete and able to operate at your best and fullest capacity.
And isn't that what you deserve?! The best version of you?
Love yourself. Complete yourself. Know that YOU are enough. Be whole on your own.....for YOU.
"The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be" - Oprah
You always make so much sense and call most of us before a mirror whose reflection never lies. Although I'm officially the adult in this mom-daughter relationship, I too learn so much from you. I'm so very proud of the person you are and I'm so very lucky to share my life with you. I love you dearly, my sweet Jack Doodles.....
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